What do you mean Facebook is bad for relationships? Duh! Regardless of what you’ve marked your status as (single, in a relationship, etc.), Facebook is where suspicions run wild and imaginations are free to interpret harmless comments and “like” buttons as secret affairs. What’s worse!? More often than not, those harmless comments and “like” buttons actually are secret affairs. Facebook signs that your relationship is trouble are pretty obvious but you have to pay attention. Basic techniques for catching a man cheating doesn’t necessarily apply to Facebook. For example, back in the day when he turned off his cell phone or became mysteriously unavailable, you knew something was up. Now, things are a little different…
The most obvious sign of any good Facebook cheater is a blank page. His “angel” page is full of family commentary and well wishes from all the people you know and love. It’s almost too good to be true. Unfortunately, unless your man is 12 years old, it probably IS too good to be true. Aside from all of the security options that allow us to hide and manipulate posts, a plethora of other ways in which to engage people secretly are available. In short, what you see on someone’s page is generally only what that person wants you see on the their page. Be wary of anyone’s page that does not contain any comments from friends, girlfriends or immediate peer groups. If your man is always talking about things someone said or something he saw on Facebook, yet never seems to post or actively participate on Facebook, he most likely has another Facebook profile that you’re not aware of. It is here on his secret page that he can post freely not prohibited by the fear of your judgments.
Another tactic commonly employed by Facebook cheaters is “hiding in plain sight” (On Facebook). His robust inventory of 965 friends, of which 902 of them happen to be strategically dressed naked women, should be a dead giveaway. This is for those of you who’ve entered into a new relationship with someone who insists that you become Facebook friends. After you’ve added him as a friend successfully and Facebook stalked him thoroughly, you realize that he has quite a few female friends. However, you think to yourself “why would a man who was cheating on me with all of these women ask me to add him as a friend on Facebook?” Well, the answer is simple. There’s no better tactic than cheating in plain sight because most women simply disregard the audacity of the obvious.
All of this visibility into the life of someone you met seems to produce the exact opposite of your desired outcome. Why? Because after you’ve cracked the passwords and turned his page inside out, you’re left with the same thing you started out with, DOUBT. More than cryptic comments and alternative accounts, the reason that Facebook forums are bad for relationships is because people put too much out there. The personal time that you enjoy to yourself now includes Facebook and we forget that. So, when you add a new friend it translates as you’ve met someone new. When you’re tagged in a photo, where you said you were going should match where you actually went. You see, just as in real life, undercover Facebook activity will eventually catch up with you and the moral of the story is that EVERYONE still eventually gets CAUGHT.